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Myth of Happy Endings

I just revisited a great story called Message in a Bottle, written by best-selling author Nicholas Sparks. Although it is essentially a romance drama, it does not have the happy ending we yearn for in a romantic story. This would be a let-down for some readers, because we cling tenaciously to the idea of happy endings, particularly in love.

The whole idea of the happy ending ties into my last post, Courage to Love. So if indeed love does not always work out in the way we hope for, why have courage to love at all?

The idea of the classic happy ending is very superficial and one-dimensional within the context of our infinite souls. The happy ending suggests a destination in this particular life, a utopian ideal of what love “should be”, rather than what it is.

What it IS is our opportunity to learn from each other. In the case of Message in a Bottle, there is so obvious learning and growth for the two main characters, Theresa and Garrett. Their ability to love better and deeper expands. For any reader or viewer (it is a movie too) who is able to let go of their need for the cliché happy ending, it is an immensely satisfying story.

There are many types of love, not just the ones with romantic partners. Check out this article for more on that: The Ancient Greeks’ 6 Words for Love (And Why Knowing Them Can Change Your Life)

What loves have you encountered in your life and what did you learn from them? (This is very personal, so I’m not fishing for comments.) The point of the question is, that when we realize the beauty, depth, and learning with each love encounter and are able to heal the wounds associated with an “unhappy ending”, we grow and have the courage to invite more love in.

Within the context of our infinite selves, this could be deemed as “happy without end”.


Myth of Happy Endings © Susan L Hart 2021 | Friendly comments welcome | Photo courtesy Nietjuh, Pixabay

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It’s Your Journey

You are the captain of your destiny, but only if you choose to be. The matrix of society will try to shape your mind and your future, if you are not careful about the thoughts to which you subscribe.

Increasingly we are lead to believe that we are helpless victims of fate, that someone else should create our reality, that we have no wisdom or personal power to shape it. We are taught that the problems are too big for us to fix, so let an external authority take care of it.

Start to be more self-observant and analyze the messages being delivered to your mind daily. Do they make you feel personally empowered? Do you feel and believe they are leading you down a road where you could feel truly fulfilled and happy in your life?

Start to be more self-observant and analyze the messages being delivered to your mind daily. Do they make you feel personally empowered? Do you feel and believe they are leading you down a road where you could feel truly fulfilled and happy in your life?

The life you are living is a result of your thoughts. If the thoughts that dominate your mind and the reality you see before your eyes no longer resonate with your true desires for life, figuratively (or literally) pack your bag and se

This is YOUR life journey, no one else’s, so make sure it’s a road of your choosing.


Inspirational Quotes:

“If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there”
~ George Harrison

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
~ Mae West

“May you live every day of your life.”
~ Jonathan Swift

“The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters.”
~ Audrey Hepburn


© Susan L Hart 2021 | Friendly comments welcome | Photo courtesy Victoria_Borodinova, PIxabay

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Claim Your Life

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The past year I feel like I’ve been swept along against my will in a tidal wave of “fate”. The dictionary’s definition of fate: “The course of someone’s life, or the outcome of a particular situation for someone or something, seen as beyond their control.”

I’ve become oh-so-weary of the dire predictions, the unending negative narrative, the muddy mental pictures that our leaders and the mainstream media paint for our future. These people use the negativity to justify their positions and to sell newspapers that cater to the collective fear.

How about you? Claiming your life begins with paying attention to your mind, your thoughts, and your belief system – essentially, what you believe is possible for your life. More on these thoughts at these posts:

Living Consciously
Be Rock Solid
The Word “No”
Little by Little
Dream a New Dream


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Be Like the Giraffe

As Oscar Wilde so humorously put it, “Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”

Society has this need to shape and mold us, to make us “acceptable”. Perhaps this has never been more strongly evident than it is in these times.

Becoming our most authentic selves, being fully true to ourselves, is sometimes a lifetime journey. But it does not have to be! We are not born with the masks that society encourages or demands that we wear. We learn to acquire them to get along and fit in.

This may make life feel easier in the short term, but in the long run is it really?

When you do not show who you really are to the world, there is an undercurrent of self-betrayal that you hold inside. Over a lifetime, this can become an unbearable burden.

Being true to yourself is one of the most important ways to fulfill your soul.

Look to nature as an example. There are no false face games being played there. Nature is authentic. No giraffe is wasting his life bemoaning his “too long neck”…

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… or his “ugly freckles”, wishing he was a zebra with those marvelous stripes.

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No, he’s just living his life, being the best giraffe he can be!

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Be Like the Giraffe © Susan L Hart 2020 |  Friendly comments welcome | Photo courtesy Kalz, Pexels, and kolibri5, HowardWilks, Alexas_Fotos, FuN_Lucky, Pixabay

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Where’s the Caring?

This time of COVID may go down in history as the “The Great Reveal”. The pressure cooker of 8 billion people focusing on their mortality has caused many of our life values to bubble to the surface for examination.

One of those is “caring”. My observation is that humans in survival mode often tend towards an “every man for himself” way of looking at things. I’ve felt appalled to hear from some people close to me that it was okay with them that people were losing their businesses as long as they themselves were safe.

This is not meant as a commentary about whether certain restrictions were right or wrong. Rather, I found the callousness with which it was stated disturbing.

Where is the caring? The success of the human race will (I believe) depend upon the degree we can feel compassion for and help our fellow human beings.

Maybe we need to organize a worldwide reading day, all of it comprised of some good children’s books, so we can review some core life values. Note that the first three “caring” quotes below are from two famous children’s authors:

“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,
Nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”
~ Dr. Seuss, The Lorax

“Some people care too much. I think it’s called love.”
~ A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

“So be sure when you step, Step with care and great tact. And remember that life’s A Great Balancing Act. And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid, you’ll move mountains.”
~ Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You’ll Go!

“We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

“If you care about something you have to protect it – If you’re lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it.”
~ John Irving

“Many people need desperately to receive this message: ‘I feel and think much as you do, care about many of the things you care about, although most people do not care about them. You are not alone.”
~ Kurt Vonnegut

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Where’s the Caring? © Susan L Hart 2021 | Friendly comments welcome | Photos courtesy nohaggerty and StockSnap

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